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Strong masculinity: founder of Everyone’s Invited sets out her vision to QE boys

With tens of thousands of young people anonymously sharing testimonies of sexual harassment and abuse on the reporting platform, Everyone’s Invited, its founder, Soma Sara, found herself at the centre of one of 2021’s biggest news stories.

And in an online lecture given to boys at QE, Soma explained what had inspired her to set it up, namely her shock at realising that almost every girl she knew had suffered from some form of sexual assault whilst growing up.

Assistant Head Crispin Bonham-Carter (Pupil Involvement) said: “Soma gave a fascinating talk to our senior pupils on the big screen in the Shearly Hall, and we were also pleased to welcome girls from The Henrietta Barnett School, who joined us online.

“She outlined her reasons for starting Everyone’s Invited, telling us that she chose the name advisedly because she wanted it to be open to all irrespective of race, religion or sexuality.”

After being founded in 2020, Everyone’s Invited shot to prominence in 2021 as more than 54,000 young people shared their accounts of sexual harassment and abuse in just nine months.

“Soma described her experience of being overwhelmed by the sheer number of testimonies that Everyone’s Invited received,” said Mr Bonham-Carter. “She did make the point that men and boys (or gender-neutral people) can be victims, too.”

“Her vision of strong masculinity, she said, was of young men with the confidence to talk openly about their feelings, to value empathy and kindness.”

These, he added, are values which chime with QE’s mission to create confident, able and responsible citizens, particularly as redefined in the 2021-2025 School plan, Building on Distinction.

Soma answered questions from pupils from both QE and Henrietta Barnett. “She talked passionately and powerfully about the importance of engaging with students early on regarding relationships and sexuality,” Mr Bonham-Carter said.

“These are complex times for young people to be growing up in – whether it’s pandemics, culture wars or the challenges of social media, they seem almost bombarded. Yet this lecture felt like a very good way to end the year, with a positive atmosphere in the Shearly Hall as focused, sensitive young people listened intently to someone only a few years older than them,” Mr Bonham-Carter added.

Soma Sara’s visit was the last in a series of events organised by the School during the Autumn Term to help both boys and staff navigate difficult social issues.

The activities included:

  • An Active Bystander Training Company workshop for all in Years 9–11 on racism, bullying and sexual harassment, with a focus on use of the four Ds – Direct action, Delay, Distraction or Delegation – to challenge inappropriate behaviour. Boys were told that any action is better than none (provided it does not put the individual at risk).
  • Staff training from specialist trainers Bold Voices on the December pastoral training day to support the Personal Development Time curriculum, which covers important issues that can be difficult to talk about. The training gave staff strategies for teaching related to gender inequality, sexual harassment and violence, and for developing positive attitudes in all pupils.
  • A series of virtual talks on the broad theme of respectful relationships offered to Years 7 & 8 and to Years 12 & 13, by the RAP Foundation educational charity. There was also a webinar for parents of Years 7 & 8 boys to help them understand the pressures facing boys as they go through adulthood. Specific topics covered included sexting, cyber-bullying, online grooming and early sexualisation.
Dig deeper, look closer, think bigger: Black History Month at QE

Queen Elizabeth’s School marked Black History Month with a diverse range of special activities both inside and outside of the classroom that drew lessons from the past, while also saluting those building a path today towards a better future.

One undoubted highlight was the online assembly given to the Sixth Form by Roni Savage ­(pictured above) – engineering geologist, founder of a multi-million pound construction industry consultancy, multiple award-winner…and a QE mum.

Headmaster Neil Enright said: “We sought to provide lots of different opportunities during Black History Month to ensure that our boys could, in the words of a BHM slogan, ‘dig deeper, look closer, think bigger’, coming up with an array of innovative ideas. These ranged from our Lower School History Raiders group researching ancient Black kingdoms and civilisations, to Year 7 PE lessons promoting sports in which athletes have either faced racism or have changed the world due to their participation, such as basketball, boxercise and indoor athletics.

“I am especially grateful to Mrs Savage, who, as a Black woman working at a high level as an entrepreneur in construction, is a true pioneer in her industry, with an impressive list of achievements and accolades to her name. She has certainly proved people wrong who doubted her because of her race, gender and age.

“And she inspired our sixth-formers with her injunction to ‘stand up, stand out, stand tall’ and her insistence that ‘there are no limits to what you can achieve’ with hard work and talent.”

Mrs Savage, whose son, Jayden, is in Year 13, is the founder of Jomas Associates, a large engineering and environmental consultancy, and Policy Chair for Construction within the Federation of Small Businesses. She is a Fellow of both the Royal British Institute of Architects and the Institute of Civil Engineering, and is on the current UK Powerlist of Britain’s most influential people of African/Caribbean heritage.

Her message was that diversity is vital to the capacity, capability and sustainability of all sectors, but that to achieve it, the status quo, with its harmful stereotypes, must be challenged.

Here is a selection of the many activities and initiatives that took place at the School as part of this year’s Black History Month:

  • A discussion in MedSoc (Medical Society) of the work of Malone Mukwende, who as a second-year medical student at St George’s, University of London, developed a book to help doctors diagnose skin rashes and diseases on black and brown skin, addressing decades of racial bias in medical education;
  • The Year 9 Shakespeare Film Club watching Othello and discussing the racial issues in the play, as raised in a British Library article;
  • Publication of a special Black History Month (and COP26) issue of the Economics department’s magazine, Econobethan;
  • Cancellation of all Music rehearsals one lunchtime, with the pupil team from the Music Enrichment Society instead giving a presentation about Black musicians. Pictured, above, are boys giving a special performance ahead of the talk;
  • Year 9 had a special Depicting Jesus Philosophy, Religion & Society (PRS) lesson, which focused on different representations of Jesus, including those from the Ethiopian Church and Rastafari traditions, and on the use of images of white Jesus for imperialist ends;
  • Year 8 geographers started a new, permanent unit on Migration towards the end of October, with a first homework task linked to Black History Month.
“For a better tomorrow”

QE’s Perspective team explained what equality, diversity and inclusion mean for them in a series of videos produced to help tutor groups mark national School Diversity Week and international Pride Month.

The videos featured each member of the six-strong Year 12 team heading Perspective, a pupil-led initiative launched last year in the wake of the BLM protests, which seeks to help QE pupils develop a holistic understanding of important social issues.

The films formed part of an online pack produced by Perspective that tutors were encouraged to use with their tutor groups. Members of the Perspective team have also been selling rainbow ribbons to raise funds for an LGBTQ+ charity.

Michael Feven, Assistant Head (Pupil Development), said: “I congratulate our Perspective team for the excellent job they have done in raising awareness and stimulating discussion throughout the School during School Diversity Week – an annual celebration of LGBT+ equality in education – and  Pride Month.”

In their videos, as well as mentioning LGBT+ issues such as mental health and the use of pronouns, the Perspective team members touched on other important topics, such as Black Lives Matter and the Israel-Palestine conflict.

Equality, Diversity and Inclusion (EDI) Ambassador Janison Jeyaventhan told his fellow Elizabethans that he hoped to make them more aware of these issues: “I wanted to be an EDI Ambassador to… inspire people like you to be part of that change for a better tomorrow.”

EDI Ambassador Ciaran Price highlighted mental health, pointing to statistics indicating that twice as many LGBT+ school pupils struggle with their mental health compared to the schools’ population at large. “Think about that: two times more likely in a year when lockdowns and a changing world has added so much stress to already-hectic school lives.”

Manomay Lala-Raykar, one of two School Vice-Captains with responsibility for managing EDI, urged fellow pupils to do some “very small things…to make a difference”, such as donating to LGBT+ causes, “educating friends and family” and changing the language that they use.

EDI Ambassador Jayden Savage felt there remained more to do: “As students who go to an all-boys School and are in our own little bubble that seems protected and blind to issues that don’t affect us, there is a lot we miss out on and don’t engage with.”

Christan Emmanuel, who is also an EDI Ambassador, said he valued Perspective because it increased empathy among his fellow pupils. And Aadarsh Khimasia, a School Vice-Captain with responsibility for managing EDI, said he appreciated it because Perspective provided “an equal say and opportunity to speak to all”, giving him the chance, for example, to talk about animal rights, a subject close to his heart.

In addition to the videos, the pack featured five questions designed to foster discussion within tutor groups:

  1. What actions could we take as individuals to ensure that our school is inclusive for those identifying as LGBTQ+?
  2. What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of going to a single-sex school in terms of promoting equality, diversity & inclusion?
  3. Is it important to be aware of different issues and causes around the world? Why?/Why not?
  4. How reliable is social media for learning about issues/causes?
  5. Are there issues that you care about? If so, what are they, and why are they important to you?

The pack also provided links to: Just Like Us, the LGBT+ young people’s charity behind School Diversity Week, to LGBTQ+ rights organisation Stonewall, to MindOut, an LGBTQ mental health charity, as well as links to Kooth, an online mental wellbeing community.

 

Cherishing our traditions: QE’s youngest pupils find out about Founder’s Day in special event

With pandemic restrictions forcing the School’s Founder’s Day activities to move online for the second consecutive year, QE’s Year 7 learned about the day’s rich history and traditions in a specially tailored afternoon.

The School’s youngest pupils would normally be at the very heart of Founder’s Day, with all joining the morning service at Chipping Barnet Parish Church and then taking part in other formal elements – such as the Roll Call and the Reading of the School Chronicle – before enjoying the fun of the afternoon fete.

Head of Year 7 Thomas Harrison began by explaining to the year group ‘bubble’ why Founder’s Day – taking place virtually this year on Saturday 19th June – is such an important fixture in the School calendar.

“On Founder’s Day, we remember and celebrate the foundation of our School – now some 448 years ago – and the long and winding history that has led us to where we are today,” Mr Harrison said.

“We are thankful to all those who have worked to build and re-shape our School – those who have laid the foundations for the education and workplace that we enjoy today.

“Those who held steadfast in difficult times, as we’ve all had to do over the past year, and those who made bold decisions in the long-term interests of our Elizabethan community.”

The event that followed borrowed elements of the service of thanksgiving, beginning with the playing of a traditional Founder’s Day hymn, For All the Saints, which had been pre-recorded in the church by the specially formed Founder’s Day Chamber Choir.

The afternoon featured contributions from no fewer than three School Captains.

  • 2020 School Captain Ivin Jose, of Year 13, gave a Bible reading from the Book of Proverbs
  • The current holder of the office, Siddhant Kansal, of Year 12, read Charlotte Bronte’s poem, Life
  • The 2008 School Captain, Matthew Rose (OE 2002–2009), who now works at his alma mater as Executive Assistant to the Headmaster and Head of Project Support Services, was the guest speaker.

Introducing Mr Rose, Mr Harrison told the boys that he was reprising his role as the youngest-ever Founder’s Day guest speaker in 2011.

In his speech, Mr Rose reflected on the varying effect of the pandemic on his audience – “Some in this room may have lost people close to them.” He spoke of the impact of a bereavement he suffered while at the School and how the experience of surmounting that “hurdle” had shaped him.

The boys had faced the challenge of joining QE – “arguably the best school in the country” – during a pandemic, but they had a responsibility to press ahead. “So, keep going, keep learning from your experiences and keep hurdling,” he concluded.

The afternoon included a musical interlude from Year 12’s Raphael Herberg, Aadarsh Khimasia and Alex Woodcock performing Trois Aquarelles II by Gaubert.

Year 7 Aniston Lakshman read the Founder’s Day prayer, while Year 7 form tutor Andrew Collins read the School Prayer, with its petition of “Inspire us, O Lord, so to do our work today, that, even as we are being helped by the remembrance of the loyal lives of those who came before us, so our faithfulness may aid those who shall take our places.”

Headmaster Neil Enright then fulfilled another time-honoured Founder’s Day practice: the reading of the School Chronicle. This charts QE’s history, starting in 1568, when one of the School’s early promoters, Edward Underne, became rector of Chipping Barnet.

The Chronicle has been brought up to date with a new stanza beginning: “And be it known that during the Covid-19 pandemic, which twice caused all the schools in the land to close their doors to most pupils, the challenges were faced with ingenuity and resolve.”

After the Chamber Choir’s recorded rendition of the National Anthem, the boys processed in silence to the Stapylton Field for the Roll Call, which they had practised before half-term. It was read by the School Captain, with each House Captain replying: “Ad sumus” (“Here we are.”)

 

Take it from us: last year’s leavers give current sixth-formers the benefit of their university experience

QE’s University Convention may have gone online this year because of Covid-19, but the alumni still turned out in numbers to support current Year 12 boys.

Well over 50 Old Elizabethans – mostly those who left the School last summer – took part in the video convention for Year 12 pupils considering their university options.

With 19 sessions on 14 subjects delivered over seven days, the virtual event was a major organisational and technological feat.

Michael Feven, Assistant Head (Pupil Development) said: “We were determined to ensure that the current Year 12 did not miss out on opportunities and I am tremendously grateful to our former pupils who supported us. Their participation means that the University Convention was this year once again one of the biggest examples of alumni participation at the School.

“The event allowed boys to find out more about quite a wide range of university options and, of course, to discover how our alumni’s university student experiences have been affected by Covid. All Year 12 boys were free to drop in as they chose, and the sessions proved popular, provoking plenty of discussion afterwards.”

In normal years, OEs visit the School together for the convention, which therefore also becomes a reunion for them after their first two terms at university.

This year, however, their contributions were given on Zoom in a series of lunchtime sessions over the seven days.

The alumni spoke on 14 subjects in the first four days, from Architecture to Computer Science, Law to Medicine & Dentistry, and from Geography to Languages.

The final three days involved sessions structured around topics such as the year spent in industry during Engineering degrees and the different types of universities available, with sessions including Campus vs City, Oxbridge, International and London.

To ensure full coverage of the planned topics, the first-year alumni were joined by a number of OEs from earlier years , such as Nik Ward (2003–2010) and Danny Martin (2010–2017) speaking on studying Architecture, and Rhys Bowden (1996–2003) and Simon Purdy (2009–2016) on Music.

 

Harmful and hurtful: asking the hard questions about micro-aggressions

Old Elizabethan Bilal Harry Khan threw down a challenge when he took part in a video conversation about ‘micro-aggressions’ as part of a new series of bitesize discussions on vital issues such as race and discrimination.

Anyone accused of perpetrating micro-aggressions should overcome the natural instinct to go on the defensive and instead be open enough to “interrogate the ideas at the root of things that may be causing harm”, urged Bilal, a podcaster, workshop facilitator and event host.

His ten-minute conversation with Year 13 pupils Thomas Mgbor and Ayodimeji Ojelade was recorded so that the issues raised can be discussed in tutor groups. It is one of a series of Perspective discussions being arranged by the School’s Equality, Diversity and Inclusion Ambassadors. Last year, Ayodimeji and Thomas were instrumental in the founding of Perspective – a new forum set up in the wake of the Black Lives Matter protests.

Michael Feven, Assistant Head (Pupil Development), said: “I am so pleased to see these short, accessible discussions taking place, and I thank especially Old Elizabethans such as Bilal who have agreed to take part. Thomas, Ayodimeji and the ambassadors’ team are to be congratulated on being so assiduous in ensuring that these important issues are both raised and discussed at QE.”

Other conversations in the series so far have included one with Natasha Devon MBE, an activist and researcher in the fields of mental health, body image, gender and social equality.

Bilal (OE 2003–2010) read Theology at Cambridge and then worked in youth engagement. He has designed and delivered hundreds of speeches and workshops in schools and youth settings on behalf of partners such as KPMG, Virgin Atlantic, Boots and Barclays. He is also frequently called upon to speak on issues of social justice, race and masculinity for news and current affairs programmes.

Bilal began the discussion by defining micro-aggressions: “They are statements, actions or incidents which are regarded as indirect, subtle or unintentional discrimination against members of a marginalised group, such as a racial or ethnic minority. The key bit for me is the words ‘indirect, subtle or unintentional’…These are things which are unintentional, but are still harmful or hurtful, when somebody might say ‘ah, but I meant that in a nice way,’ or ‘that was just a bit of banter’ or ‘that was supposed to be a compliment’. “

He gave an example from his own experience: “That question: ‘Where are you from? No – where are you really from?’ Where you have said you are really from is never the right answer. They want to know where your grandparents or great-grandparents are from; when I say ‘north-west London’ that is not believed.”

Bilal continued: “It’s the cumulative impact of loads of micro-aggressions that really makes someone feel like ‘I don’t belong here’ or ‘I am angry’ or ‘I am ashamed’ or perhaps that there is ‘something about me that is not right’.”

He suggested that QE pupils should be a true “ally” by challenging micro-aggressions not only when someone who might be hurt or harmed by them is present, but also when they are absent. He urged boys to be “more confident and comfortable to challenge and question, and also just to own up and apologise when we have said and done these things”.

Thomas asked Bilal how he would respond to those who would suggest we are turning into a “snowflake community”.

“This is not about being ‘woke’ or hyper-sensitive or being ‘snowflakes’,” Bilal said. “It’s about recognising that these issues have actually been used as tools of oppression for centuries.”